Remember Festivus, a holiday for the rest of us, from Seinfeld? Well, this year provides a unique opportunity to start up some new traditions out of old holidays. And this time, the celebrations can be for all of us.
Yes, this veers off from my usual subject matter. I thought it was time for a change of pace from all the serious.
Inspiration here comes from my amazing friend, Cheryl.
On February 14, 2018, both St. Valentine’s Day and Ash Wednesday will be celebrated. On April 1, 2018, both April Fool’s Day and Easter Sunday take place. Too much coincidence there. We have to play with that. And why should Christians have all the fun?
So, I thought I would come up with some new secular celebrations based on the intersection of those holidays. They can be for fun. Or serious reflection. Your choice.
CELEBRATIONS FOR FEBRUARY 14, 2018
On this day, we can contemplate and repent our past romantic mistakes. Let’s face it, even those in blissfully happy relationships have a few.
So, think on those mistakes, repent them, and then do two things.
First of all, learn from those mistakes. Then resolve to take those lessons. Going forward do better by yourself and any partner, or partners, you may have.
Second of all, having resolved to learn from your mistakes, forgive yourself. You’ve looked at yourself. You have resolved to do better. Don’t beat yourself up any further. Cut loose the weight of guilt and regrets. Start forward on better footing and with a lighter step by lightening up on yourself.
To show our observance of this celebration, we can burn our old Valentine’s Day cards. Then spread the ashes on our cheeks in the form of hearts.
Enjoy. Good loving to you.
CELEBRATIONS FOR APRIL 1, 2018
This is the “Jesus Died…Just Kidding” Day for Christians. But all of us can just take the time to learn to laugh some when contemplating death.
I don’t mean that in a cruel way. Or even a morbid way. Death is scary. Disturbing. Heart-rending. Inevitable. Inescapable. Terrifying. As a result, it becomes something we find difficult to face, or even discuss.
Learning to laugh at things helps make them less terrifying. At one of the best funerals I ever went to, we sat around laughing at all the funny stuff the deceased had done. Which is exactly what he would have wanted.
So, learning to laugh at death, just a little, will help us better be able to talk about it. To deal with it. Learn to laugh, so that you can do better by yourself in the future.
We can celebrate this day by telling “death” jokes. Or reminiscing about Death’s funny bits in Terry Pratchett’s Discworld series. (For those who don’t know, Death was a character in the series. And had some very funny bits.) Or just remembering the funny stuff some deceased loved one said.
Here. I’ll start:
I’m not saying your perfume is too strong. I’m just saying the canary was alive before you got here.
Enjoy. Laugh it up.
Whether you choose to celebrate the old holidays, or these new ones, or both, I wish you all love and laughter in the following months.